the shit end of the stick....of butter.

okay, everybody, i'm ready!
knowing the disparity of views, i'm sure i can voice my opinions without fear of  derision or retribution.  after all, this is america and we pride ourselves on the respect we show freedom of speech.
(my god!  i'm surprised i got that all out without hurling on my keyboard!)  
let me start with a **WARNING**
the following WILL include WORDS and LANGUAGE that some people may find OFFENSIVE!!  if you don't think you can handle it...STOP READING NOW!!
ok.  
here goes.
i feel paula deen is being unfairly treated.
there!
i've said it.
granted, the disclosure of the plans for a wedding (one that apparently NEVER actually HAPPENED) with a "gone with the wind" theme and waiters dressed as living lawn jockeys or whatever, displayed a certain level of insensitivity.  the fact that a person of her background, having grown up when and where she did, dropping the N-bomb....can anyone be THAT surprised??  it was "exposed" during a deposition for which she swore to tell the truth...and she did.  there would (and should) have been more of a hub-bub had she lied and THAT had been discovered.  so, give her points for telling the truth.
SHIT-WAD-FART-HEADS!!  just testing.  hey!  i did give you a warning.
as for her losing sponsors and endorsement deals...do you really think the're doing those things because it's "the right thing to do"?  oh HELL no!!  they're doing it to cover their substantially wealthy asses.  it's a good thing nobody has access to a working WAYBACK machine (everybody has to remember "peabody and sherman").  the discovery of every politically incorrect, insensitive statement or action of the past would send waves of apoplexy through the world and embarrass a whole lot of people.
i. like paula, will admit to dropping the N-bomb, and i'm not even under oath.  usually done in moments of extreme anger and without thinking, i have always regretted it immediately, but as they say...what's done is done.  and i sincerely think that if asked, anyone who says that, under stressful moments, they haven't used the word, even just thought it, they'd be, if not lying, kidding themselves.
after all, it's not just the N-bomb.  the list is extensive:  four-eyes, stupid, fatso, zit-face, bitch, fag, queer, dyke, wop, dago. beaner, cunt (i warned you!), gimp, retard....shall i go on??  if ANYONE can honestly say they have never used any word like those, then saint-hood awaits.  other wise, using a popular street colloquialism, "niggah, please!?"
yes, i, an out-of-shape, older-than-middle-aged, gay white man said it.  rappers use it.  authors and movie makers use it.  it's used on the street between blacks, even as a term of "endearment".  i'm not saying it's right, and i sincerely can't remember the last time i was angry enough to actually use the word.  i grew up hearing it from neighbors, never liked it, was taught it was a word not to be used and, having a lot of black friends in high school, i never considered using it.
but there are a lot of people out there who are saying "it's just a word" and by using it (they tend to call it "owning it"), it strips the word of it's power.  don't know if i fully believe that, because it still has power when used by the wrong people..the power to punish.
some are saying paula is through and won't be able to recover.  i'm not so sure.  many tend to underestimate the capacity to forgive.  look at charlie sheen.  btitney spears.  yes, we still have lindsey and amanda, but who knows?  there's still time.  but none of them dropped the N-bomb (ooo, michael richards..he did use it, but that went viral...much more damning).  i, for one, think she can make it.
so.
there we have it.
i know it's out there.
i'm ready.
........................FIRE!!!